If you have wanted to think more clearly about non-sexual intimacy, this is a low-pressure place to start.
Habit one
A shorter version done often beats a longer version done rarely.
Build a version you can do while tired. Tired-day plans keep the whole thing going.
Habit two
Make it boring enough to repeat. Exciting habits often outshine the boring ones — then disappear.
If something stops working, it does not mean you failed. It means the next version is around the corner.
- A flexible version for unpredictable weeks
- A version with music on
- A version in silence
- A version for airport terminals
Habit three
Friendly progress is quieter than dramatic progress. You will not always notice it as it happens.
Habit four
You do not need new tools to begin. A familiar setup is friendlier than a stack of unread guides.
- A version you can do in slippers
- A version for the living room floor
- A version for the drive home
- A travel version that fits in a small bag
- A version for the balcony or porch
Stacking habits gently
Borrow from people you already trust. Ask a friend what works for them. Steal the small ideas.
- A rainy-day version that stays indoors
- A no-equipment version
- An evening version that fits after dinner
- A version at sunrise
Pick one small piece to try this week. Skip the rest until next week.